It can be intimidating to ask for help. We all like to be seen as capable and strong enough to handle anything ourselves. But when it comes to your job search, a strong network can be your most valuable tool, and one that you should tap into without hesitation.
In general, people are happy to help and like to be seen as a connector or facilitator. Just keep these points in mind as you ask for assistance, leads and advice:
Build a network of the right people.
A strong network can take a lifetime to build, but it’s something you’ll also value and use your whole life.
- Start with online tools like LinkedIn and Meetup to seek out and connect digitally with others in your industry or desired industry. Make sure your profile is updated with a clear professional photo, a compelling summary, and your relevant experience front and center. Once you’ve made a connection, don’t be afraid to reach out to them through messaging, or to follow and comment on their posts.
- Get a pulse for events, workshops and webinars in your desired field and attend them. Whether online or in-person, these gatherings where professionals meet and exchange ideas are a terrific way to make strong and lasting connections.
- Look into becoming a member of any relevant associations and professional groups in your field. There are also networks such as young professional groups in most regions through which you can meet people from other lines of work and industries.
- Mentors are a critical sounding board. Don’t hesitate to find one, and when you’re ready, don’t hesitate to be one!
- Nurture your professional relationships. Don’t just reach out when you are in need of help. Meet periodically for coffee and lunch to discuss projects or life in general.
- Be mindful of diversity. Don’t create an echo chamber of people just like you. Find folks in other industries and roles whose experience, background and perspectives might be different from yours.
Know who to ask.
- Friends and family: Start with people who know you well. They might be aware of job openings or be able to refer you to someone in their network. They can be your best advocates.
- Your professional network: Colleagues, mentors, or connections from past jobs or internships can provide valuable advice and introductions.
- Online communities: LinkedIn groups, industry-specific forums, job sites and alumni groups can be great places to ask for help.
Be specific about what you need.
When asking for help professionally, be clear about what kind of support you’re looking for.
If you’re seeking a referral or job leads, state that. If you don’t know someone well, ask them if they would be willing to meet to chat and get better acquainted. If you need a door opened for you, it’s okay to state that. Just don’t expect an instant recommendation from someone who really cannot vouch for you or your work.
Asking for specific advice is a way to glean the experience of people who have walked in your shoes and may have a new and interesting perspective as you try to break into a new role or industry. Some might even be willing to take a look at your resume or online profile and provide feedback.
Be grateful and follow up.
Regardless of the outcome, if someone has taken time to connect with you, always express your gratitude for their time and consideration. If they do offer help through an introduction, referral, job lead or interview tips, follow up and keep them updated on your progress.
And pay it forward! Offer to do the same for them if they should ever need it. Be curious about their needs and career path and ask if there is anything you can do for them.
You never know where the next opportunity might come from, so stay open to connections in unrelated fields or roles. The more people you know, the greater your chances of discovering something unexpected.